In Loco Parentis or Adulting
- velvetgloves
- Nov 5, 2017
- 2 min read
It feels as though I went to bed plastered after an amazing Friday night out and woke up Saturday morning with God sitting on my bed, hands in a praying position – glances over to me and says, “it is now time to adult my child.”
I imagine myself having a million questions for him, the primary being where and how do I start?? What information am I supposed to know?? I know my social but not my blood type! I know how to check the oil level in my car but will be one mile from walking when it comes to the gas tank. I will spray Raid until it kills me and the spider, but it takes me half an hour to recover just from seeing it in my same space. Armed with this bit of information and a command from The Lord, I went to the only person I knew who somehow had a handle on this adulting stuff, my mom. She was standing behind the bar in our house (we’ve always loved a good party) and I walked into the room and said, “how did you know? How did you know you had become an adult and you could do it?”
She told me there was no glaringly apparent moment. There was nothing that happened all of sudden. It was one day, one week, one year. Each moment leading into the next and each triumph and trial creating a stronger mind and better equipped person. She also told me to trust myself, that I was stronger than I knew. That when the moments came, I would know exactly what to do and that if I didn’t that was okay too. Ever since, I have felt like a stronger woman, not that I don’t get worried or nervous or have feelings of something being too much for me because I do. In those times when I have feelings of inadequacy, I allow it to frighten me into being and better. In the event that my mind is not enough to keep me on track, I have an amazing support system of friends and family who are there to remind me I am capable and more than equipped.
It is okay to not have all the answers. It is okay to fumble. It is not okay to wallow in self pity, it is not okay to give up on whatever it is you are seeking to accomplish. Sometimes we want to seek out an adult, remember we are one, and then panic. Don't panic though, just find one who seems to have most of life (at least their own) under control. Ask questions, observe, and trust yourself - you're stronger than you know.
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